What is the best way to stop a baby from crying? This is probably the hardest one yet!!! I REALLY need some help on this one!!! No books for this one, only experience!!! Believe me, whoever can get this one right deserves the best souvenir money can buy!!!! Love you all!!
Mrs. Scales
Thursday, September 13, 2007
Mrs. Scales Class Question of the Day!!!!
Posted by Tyler and Stephanie at 4:55 AM
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walk the baby while bouncing and she might stop crying.hope you have fun!!!!
Are their any parks around or somewhere you can try sitting with her where she can see other babies/kids.Try your "sitting therapy" their. Try white noise in your room ie; a chinese lullaby tape? Babies sense your anxiety so try to remain calm.Easier said than done! You are doing great! Hang in their! we love you, The Fields
Sometimes you have to sit down with them and cry too, They will stop crying and look at you and wonder what is wrong with you! I miss you, can't wait til we can see you toting Olivia on you hip. I can't wait til I can see you Steph, when you don't have time to fix your hair in the mornings. hehe
Love you. Karen Thigpen
Ohh...I know it is hard listening to the crying, but when she comes out of it, you will forget all about it! Sounds like she is a good sleeper--yeah! I can't wait to meet Olivia. You look perfect holding her...she is a blessed child. Love you, Meredith
Remember these verses:
He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Great is our Lord and abundant in strength. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.
Only He can heal her spirit. Claim His promises and watch Him work in Olivia. Can't wait to see your family. We love you!
Do your best to be calm and confident. I know it's difficult to be confident when you don't feel like you know a whole lot about what you're doing, but the Lord gives grace abundantly for the task to which He has called us. When you are confident, she will feel more secure. And strangely enough, try not to make everything all about her. It actually makes a child feel insecure when the world revolves around her. It makes her feel as if everything is dependent upon her. Include her in what you do rather than making everything about her. Hope this helps. Even better, I will be praying for you all. "And the peace of God, which passes all understanding will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus." May His name be great in China! Olivia is beautiful, and greatly blessed of God. Can't wait to see her. Ashley Mullins
Tyler and Stephanie, I am thoroughly enjoying the pictures of Beijing but without question the most beautiful picture is of your adorable little girl. I am so happy for you. Corey Behel
Stephanie,
The thing that makes your heart hurt the most is when your babies are sad. Bumped head? It hurts and you can make it better. Pitching a fit because they didn't get their way? You know they'll get over it. But when they're just sad, you feel defeated.
You have so many people here praying for all of you. Someone else posted that we prayed for all of you last night at church. I prayed especially for contentment and trust for Olivia. I prayed that she could feel God right there with her. Maybe babies always feel Him near, and she has something she knows with her still.
From what I've read, they seem to come around. I know Olivia will. If she could only know how blessed she is.
Ashley Mullins' post was FULL of wisdom. You've taught long enough to know as well as anyone that kids feel most secure with established routines and boundaries. Just love her and help her begin to know what to expect from you and Tyler. Soon, she'll cry for you when you're in the shower!
You are such an amazing person. Your faith in God is inspiring. Your choice to praise Him, even during this trying time, makes me even more in awe of how good He is. I thank Him for giving you such strength and faith.
I've learned that just because God answers our prayers and gives us the desires of our hearts, doesn't mean he's finished growing us! This is just the beginning!
Hang in there! Write it all down. We can't wait until you are back home!
Dear Stephanie,
You may not like my answer to your Question of the Day, but remember, I am only a few weeks ahead of you. Today is our 2 week anniversary of arriving back in the PRECIOUS USA! My answer to "How do you stop a baby from crying" is: you don't. You let her cry. I know it goes against everything in you that wants to make the crying stop, but crying can be therapeutic (sp?) and even necessary. Nobody said that adoption is EASY, but it is a beautiful gift from the Lord. I finally have figured out to ALLOW Josiah to cry. After all, when I need to cry, I don't want someone shoving food or drink in my face or dangling toys in front of me either- if I am crying then I have a good reason! (even if it is just because I am overtired, overwhelmed and overChina- yes I made that word up!) I know you may not feel like it, but day by day, little by little, you will see progress and one of these days, Olivia is going to be a Mama's girl. Mark my words! May the Lord minister to your heart.
In His love,
Holly McDaneld
hollymac828@yahoo.com
Waiting China Families- adopted our 3rd child, 1st adoption, at age 21 months- Josiah adopted Aug. 20, 2007.
stephanie, i heard of your blog and just wanted to wish you the very best on your trip to china. i know that olivia will be blessed in your family. you will be a great mom. im looking forward to meeting her one day soon. best wishes, good luck on your trip home. tim jaynes
Dearest Stephanie and Tyler,
I can't wait to get an update each day. I have read the comments and each one has excellent advice. I promise she will calm down soon. Her little world has totally changed and she doesn't understand. Even though you must wonder, her love is growing for you daily. I am so proud she is sleeping! What a blessing! I was afraid she might be waking up during the night crying. I love the comment Holly made about just letting her cry. She feels your love. She is just trying to find that security she is missing from being in one place all her precious life. Change is hard for little ones. I wish I could be there to help you!! Stay calm yourselves and Olivia will sense your security and love. Parker and I are really looking forward to you and Olivia coming to play!! I love you all and I am continuing to pray for you. Deborah
Steph, Tyler and Olivia
So happy to see the three of you together as a family. Just be as calm as possible with Olivia. Sometimes holding her close where she can hear your heartbeat could be calming. You feel anxious and you understand what's going on. Imagine how anxious and confused Olivia must feel. Just pray for guidance.
You are getting some great advice. Let her grieve. It's as new to her as it is to you! I'm the last one who should be giving advice, I know, but I do know that this is a major transition for everyone involved. We love you all and continue to pray daily for you. "But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection. And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful." (Col. 3:14-15)
The Wiggs
So much good advice, I read a story before going to get Hannah Beth , The baby cried for several days and the parents realized they did not look like anyone she had ever seen and did not smell like anything she had ever smelled, even though you are giving her a new and wonderful life, all she knows is that she is not where she she was and with the people she was with, but God, and kinda the way we are before our conversion we do not realze how much love He has for us, and after we have Him and His love we realize we do not need anything else as much as we need Him. One thing that helped when Hannah Beth was the snuggle, I know it is hot but she seemed to like being close without just holding her in my arms at times. You may have tried it already.
Love you'll
Linda AND Hannah Beth
Tyler/Stephanie, we are praying for the transition to smoothe. These are the labor pains of this new birth and this too shall pass!!
May the Lord provide the grace to ease this time of hurt as well as great Joy! Through the Eyes of Faith we know that the bond now being forged will be an everlasting and precious one. The Lord will provide all you need, be faithful!
In love Vince and Regina!
P.S.....That Roll Tide thing.....Tyler you are delerious, that was Chinese for "hold me daddy"!!!!!!! I wanna suck my fingers!!!
Love you guys!!!
Stephanie,
So many people gave deep, wise advise. I'll just give some quick tips for if you're yearning for a little quiet.
It's a little weird, but Nate used to do this for Suzy when she got hysterical. He'd take a drink of water and not swallow. He'd put his face close to hers. Then he'd sort of breath in through his teeth, still not swallowing. It makes an odd little noise, sort of like a creek flowing. It never failed. She'd stop crying and just look at him with a puzzled expression. I don't know if she was wondering what the sound was, or just embarrassed about her strange daddy!
I would sing the same hymn to Suzy everytime she went to sleep. Hearing the hymn at another time would sometimes help to calm her.
Also, and you probably know this from teaching, sometimes the crying can be a reaction to over-stimulation. A room too bright, too noisy, too many toys or too much clutter, too many people waving toys or what not in their face, it can stress a baby. You might try dimming the lights and doing what you can to remove some of the stimulus.
Love,
Lori Penland
Steph
One night in China Clara just cried and cried (which was not normal for her). Joe was up with her quite a bit walking and praying over her. During that time God spoke to Joe's heart about some of the gifts and talents that He has placed in Clara. It wasn't a fun night, but it was a special gift for God to share those things with us. Holding, kissing, crying with Olivia....those are all therapeutic for both of you! And keep praying and ask God to reveal Himself to you during this time. You are doing a great job!!! You guys are such a blessing to Olivia, just as she is to you!
Love,
Joy
Stephanie, I have been so blessed and enjoyed the pictures so much. I can't wait every day to see the new pictures. They are so precious.
God sure has blessed you and Tyler with such a beautiful child.
Love you,
Irene
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